03 | 06 | 2019
In his book, “What Got You Here Won’t Get You There”, Marshall Goldsmith’s narrative is written for workplace interactions, but I found his message to be appropriate for personal relationships too. Here is a snippet from Chapter 4 (Habit #4): Making Destructive Comments.
It fittingly speaks to our brand and the premise of what we stand for. Destructive comments are the cutting, sarcastic remarks that we spew out, with or without intention. Most often we don’t even remember what we said. However, the target of our thoughtless remarks are oftentimes left hurt and dejected. These comments (often disguised as candor) are insensitive. The damage is done and the words linger.
Here are a few habits to ask and practice:
1. Will this comment help the person I’m talking to?
2. Will this comment help the person I’m talking about?
3. Think before you speak.
Together, let’s embark on a journey of well-being and wholeness for ourselves and others by the words we speak. Someone just might feel a little better, smile a bit more generously, even cherish the much needed compliment.